If you are reading this review, you are likely looking for a memory care facility for your loved one. My siblings and I were in your shoes in January 2026.
Our father was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s at the end of December 2025, and as the new year began, we found ourselves scrambling to care for him in the short term and find a safe and loving facility where he could live long term.
While one of us stayed with Dad at all times, the other siblings began researching and visiting well respected facilities in the Twin Cities South Metro.
Rivers of Life was the sixth place we visited. We liked the staff and beautiful facility. After we’d all had a chance to tour it, we agreed it was our top choice. At our second meeting, the facility director said they had a room for Dad and gave us the code to the front door so we could start moving things into his room. Relieved and grateful, we wrote a check to secure his place and start the move-in process. The facility director told us that she and the nursing director would meet with our dad in a few days to assess the level of care he would need.
On the day of the assessment, the two directors from Rivers of Life arrived at our dad’s home about a half an hour after the scheduled start time. Dad exhibited signs of anxiety during the assessment. His hands shook, and he had trouble answering some questions. (As my siblings and I learned later, it is not uncommon for a person with Alzheimer’s to develop anxiety as the disease progresses. We had already started working with our dad’s general practitioner to find the right medication to calm him.)
After the directors from Rivers of Life left, we let Dad know he would be moving just a few blocks from his home to their facility, where he would be well cared for. He seemed relieved. We took him for a visit, and he liked the place a lot.
That evening, one of the directors called to inform me that they had decided our dad was not a good fit for Rivers of Life. They felt his anxiety would require too much work on their part.
Let me repeat that: Rivers of Life (a facility dedicated to people with memory loss) did not believe they could adequately care for our father. They decided his anxiety would require too much work for them.
Dear reader of this review, I don’t know if I can adequately express the devastation my siblings and I felt at receiving this news. When we told our dad that he wouldn’t be moving to Rivers of Life, he asked if he had done something to displease the people he’d met.
The next day, a social worker recommended The Moments of Lakeville to us, and within a few days we had visited the facility and found that it would be a great fit. Before we wrote a check or signed paperwork (and before we scheduled the assessment), we told the director that our dad was experiencing some anxiety. We asked if they would have any trouble caring for him because of his anxiety. The director told us, “Many people with dementia have anxiety, especially as they transition from their home to memory care. It is our job to help ease them through that transition and meet their needs on an ongoing basis.”
As promised, from the day our dad arrived at The Moments of Lakeville, the staff was there to help him. Within a week, Dad’s anxiety had abated, and he began settling into his new home and routine. He appreciated being able to pick up a printed list of activities every morning, so he could decide for himself which ones he wanted to do. He felt safe and cared for, he made friends, and he enjoyed having a measure of autonomy each day.
It didn’t take long for my siblings and me to realize that being rejected by Rivers of Life had been a gift.
As my brother and two sisters and I now see it, the assessment the directors did that day in January was not to determine what level of care our Dad needed, but rather how much work he would be for their staff. Any facility that considers anxiety to be “too much work” was not the right place for our father. It may not be the right place for your loved one, either.