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Crystle Hofeldt
Apr 27, 2023
I’m not a member of this church nor do I attend church here however, I’ve had reason to reach out to them for a very serious need. An extremely tragic event has unfolded in our family and has caused unthinkable harm to a child. His father was able to initially rescue him but it was to be temporary based on specific conditions that he wasn’t able to achieve as these conditions were completely out of his grasp.
I contacted this church in Rancho Santa Margarita and spoke with many elders and one particular Bishop requesting temporary help for this child and his father. I was so uncomfortable doing this because it goes against everything we’ve been taught not to do, but instead to stand on your own feet and do everything humanly possible for your own causes in life. Unfortunately, this became much bigger than any of us could have anticipated, leaving us very little we could do without a form of temporary help.
A true story from many years ago has always remained in the front of my mind and it resurfaced itself as this family was going through such horrific trials and tribulations.
Years ago, an elderly friend of mine was inside her home when a fire started burning her house to the ground. All she was able to get out with were the clothes she was wearing that night. She stayed with friends several nights but out of the blue, she got a visit from several elders from The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. They told her they had come to offer her help in her tragic situation. They initially put her up in an old house with much needed repairs. But she wasn’t phased by this old house. She was so completely thankful for this wonderful blessing she had just received that her heart was full of gratitude. I’m not sure how the events unfolded after that but she was able to remain living in that old house for many years to come.
She was so completely filled with such gratitude that she began attending their church, invited many of her friends to attend and eventually became a Mormon. I rarely knew her to ever miss a church service until she passed several years later.
I still remember her telling me that story so clearly(with many other details), She said …. If you’re ever in a real tough situation in life, promise me you’ll reach out to these wonderful folks. Of course, I NEVER thought I’d need any help from anyone or anyone in my family ever would. Sadly, after this horrible experience transpired, my family member was faced with a very huge burden that was to be the difference of saving this child from any further harm or the very real possibility that his child would have to be taken from him and placed back into the fire, so to speak. And believe me when I say that no one could have believed the conditions he was ordered to meet to keep his child safe. As I shared with all of these elders, it is all in black and white and legally documented to see.
I called. Spoke with several elders in this church and explained everything to them. It wasn’t fun. I requested to talk with the Bishop.
I did get to speak with the Bishop once briefly but he said that he was driving when I called and asked if he could call me back later. I said that would be great. I asked him if my number came up or if I should give it to him. He said Yes…. It did come up. That he had it. I NEVER heard back from him. I called again and spoke with several of the elders 4 more times, going back over the details of the case with them. They assured me that they would speak with the Bishop, go over this situation again with him, and ask him to call me. I still never heard from him. I didn’t even hear back from any of the elders I had previously spoken with several times.
All I’m saying is:
It was horrible having to ask for this temporary help for this father and his child. It really makes one feel uncomfortable and demoralizing. If they weren’t comfortable in offering help to this small family why didn’t they just call me back and tell me. Sadly, I’ve never heard back from any of them. I don’t share the same warm feelings for them my elderly friend did.