HS
Heather Smith
Mar 25, 2024
I recently learned a lot working with VHS Hospice. I sort of had some positive thought and expectation of what Hospice does; but I had no idea what a personal mission this would be.
We pulled my mother into care with VHS Hospice last November and I left my home across country to see my mom and see what her routine was and how hospice would help. Admittedly, I was a basket case. My first day with my mom was super traumatic and I did not understand what I was seeing. My first night I call Pat, the nurse assigned to my mom. After telling her what I was witnessing she explained to me what was going on and put my mind at ease.
For the time I was there, I was by my mom's side as much as I could be. The social worker, Hannah, was my rock. Upon her visit we sat down together and I just spewed out everything I had seen and experienced. She listed. When I was done, she asked me an incredibly simple but powerful question, "Heather, how are you?"
Through the entire process, I had never thought about me and how "I" was. I stopped everything and thought hard before answering. It was a valuable lesson for me and I really felt like, Hannah did care. She cared about me and my mom. I cannot express how brilliant she is at her job and as a human being, she is pretty darn remarkable.
Also, on the team was the aide, Lynn. Understand, my mother was not the kindest person in the end and could be very hostile and violent. Lynn remained calm and kind. When I asked to help, she let me work alongside her and help my mother in her most vulnerable moments. And, really, reflecting back on that really helped me to have a connection with my mom and empathize with all that she had become.
And then there was Pastor Richard, he came by when I was visiting, and regardless of my religious beliefs and/or study, he brought so much calmness to me and my mother in just talking to us, quoting beautiful passages from the bible and sang some beautiful songs. I could see my moms breath and face relax. I learned from him that I didn't always need to talk my mom through this, but would snuggle her, hold her hand in silence and sometimes with a little tuned quietly sung or hummed.
After I had to come back home, both Pastor Richard and Hannah kept on contact with me. They would text and call me and give me updates. Oh, man, that was so special. They are both such beautiful people.
Hannah was the one who called me when my mom left us. I would not have wanted it any other way. She went above and beyond in helping me during and after. She is a miracle. VHS Hospice is blessed to have her working for them.
Thank you all! You brought light into my mom and my life when we were surrounded by darkness.